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Mark May 31, 2011 at 7:17 am · Reply Yeah, me neither.

In the past, the PUA community has covered vulnerability (look up Captain Jack’s “heartmelters” sometime if you want a laugh) purely in the context of, “if you say stuff like this, she’ll get all teary-eyed and want to fuck even sooner.”

That’s not the context in which I’m talking about here. In fact, that’s more or less the polar opposite of where I’m going with this.

Jimmy May 31, 2011 at 6:09 am · Reply “But I’m serious. The more I coach, the more convinced I am that the inability to make ourselves vulnerable to create this emotional process really is the root of what we’re all here for. If I can nail down a way to guide guys through that, then I think it will (hopefully) open up a new paradigm in the industry. Or to put it more bluntly… I think once you guys get it, you’ll all agree that it’s some next-level shit. ”

Oh my god, I think I’ve been lingering on that but couldn’t verbalize quite as good as you had put it together, as it is above.

I’ve observed that the more vulnerable I let myself be, the less I care about how people perceive me (and it could just be me…) but I’m almost met by disdain from my close friends from high school (who all I assume are emotionally stunted). It’s almost like there’s a constant need of them needing to put down one another, that I think I participated more in before. Not even jokingly sometimes so much as it is compensatory.

And this kind of corresponds with a notion in my head that, “Life is all projections” – all we have and all we can work with is our internal world. Our lives are subjective, and what others say need to be interpreted for comprehension. So if we allow ourselves to be more emotionally vulnerable, we can communicate with others in that manner. If we weren’t, that idea of ‘being vulnerable’ may not come up, or we’d be so fearful of it that it’d be avoided altogether.